If Not Now, When?

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”

– Theodore Roosevelt

When work settles down.

When the kids are a bit older.

When the kids go to primary / high school

When cricket / football / netball / footy season is over.

When we aren’t short-staffed at work anymore.

When I’m not so tired in the mornings.

When I’m sleeping better at night.

When we’ve got a second car in the family again.

When the kids are back at school.

When the kids are back on holidays.

When my husband / wife changes jobs.

When my parents are better and I don’t have to look after them so much.

When I can leave this job and get a new one.

When the house is built.

When we’ve settled into the new house.

When we’ve sold the house.

When it cools down. It’s too hot at the moment.

When it warms up. It’s too cold at the moment.

When…

When…

When…

When….


Ever heard yourself say “I’ll do it when life settles down?”

I’ve heard so many of these ‘when’ statements over the years.

And – I’ll be the first to admit – I’ve used a lot of them too 🙂

But here’s the problem ~

They are excuses. A form of denial really. A dreamlike, optimistic but not realistic state that suggests that things will be different, and the time will be right, one day.

But THIS is life.

Today. Right now. This moment.

This crazy, busy frantic over-committed, non-stop fast paced existence you lead is YOUR LIFE.

Right here, right now.

Work won’t settle down.

Life won’t settle down when the kids are older.

There’ll be something else to fill your time when cricket / football / netball / footy season is over.

You have no control over whether you’re short-staffed at work.

You’re always going to be tired in the mornings.

You’ll sleep well some nights and terrible on others.

You’ll be just as busy when the kids are back at school.

You’ll be even more busy when the kids are on holidays.

It will still be “too hot” next summer.

It will still be “too” cold next winter.

Life *is* crazy, busy and frantic.

And unless you’re planning a major change to your life – like moving to Nepal to study at a Buddhist temple – nothing will change.

So if there’s something you want or need to do, you must find a way to make it work RIGHT NOW.

To find a way to fit it into the current form your (busy) life takes.

Last weekend, we went to a funeral. Even though I’d never met him, I think it’s impossible to attend a funeral – any funeral – without being reminded of those you’ve lost, those you will lose one day and just how freaking short life is.

The man died of a heart attack at just 46; the same age as my husband. Nothing like a reality check about the uncertainty and shortness of one’s life.

Life isn’t going to settle down any time soon. This is it.

This.  Is.  Your.  Life.

Don’t settle for an ordinary existence (if your heart calls you to do more with it).

Find time to do all the things you’ve wanted to do – to live a life a little less ordinary – because “when” will never come and I think there are few things in life sadder than dying with regrets.

As Theodore Roosevelt said,

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”

Begin wherever you are.
Do whatever you can.
Start now.

If not now, when - start today